In todays era of homeschooling, quarantining, mask debates and more she has noticed many mothers having more anxiety as their children return to school coupled with a sense of relief that life is returning to normal. As a way to manage this sense of overwhelm and anxiety Melissa suggests that moms block out 10 minutes a day in their calendar to take a break and decompress and get their emotions in check. Many times doing a “brain dump” and getting all of our thoughts out of our head can help us stay focused and centered.
Another suggestion Melissa has is to be prepared to say no. Before responding with an automatic yes to all favors asked of you, ask to have some time to think about it and look at your schedule. Tell the person asking for your time that you will get back to them within 24 hours and if it doesn’t fit in your schedule time wise, or you feel like you’re already committed to too many things, it’s absolutely ok to say no.
Often overlooked, Melissa believes eating properly and following a healthy lifestyle also helps moms keep their anxiety in check. Binging on sugar, simple carbs and alcohol can have significant impacts on a woman's health and emotions. There is generally an underlying reason why moms are using food and alcohol to relax or feel happy. She suggests asking yourself the hard questions of why or what am I looking for in this experience? Most often it’s not the sugar rush but some deeper level of discontent.